Pornography Addiction and How It's Damaging Catholic Society
The one and only way to kill the roots of pornography addiction!
Last month I made a decision: I would keep up with my flower garden this year. Generally, I just turn over the ground, plant a few things, and then forget about it. This year, I would commit myself to making our garden in the front of our house look nice.
Of course, I started with the weeds. Those little buggers are ‘oh, so pervasive.’ No matter how many times I go out and cut them away, they always come back. It was my neighbor who finally told me my problem.
“You have to get at the root,” he said. “The stem and leaves are just the part you can see, but the real life of the plant is in the roots. Those tiny little ones that are as big as hairs—they make it grow. Kill the roots, and you’ll kill the weed.”
Do You Have The Courage To Face Your Pornography Addiction?
You Do? Then I Can Show You Exactly How To Quit FOR GOOD!
I'm not going to tell you how prevalent pornography addiction is in our society. I'm not going to warn you that it's even a problem (a major one) for Christians... even pastors and ministers. I'm not going to remind you that we, as Catholics, are just as susceptible to this terrible addiction as everyone else.
The question comes up often-sadly, more often than the question, "How do I break my own porn addiction?" The simple fact is, it's a lot easier to help someone who wants to be helped. If your husband is addicted and unwilling to admit it, then your chances of helping him are pretty small. If he wants help, on the other hand, your chances (and the support you can give him) jump drastically. So let's go through a couple of different scenarios.
Porn Addiction & Recovery Questions
Should I Have A Sober Counter?Most recovering addicts can tell you almost exactly how long they've been sober (call it sober, pure, chaste, whatever you want--what we're talking about is the number of days they've been clean from their addicted behavior). And yet, many recovering addicts practically discourage the use of a 'counter'.
How Do You Find Support Groups For Pornography Addiction?
That's a tough one. It's not like alcoholism, which has been around for centuries and has many organizations dedicated to fighting it. You can literally find an AA group anywhere in the country. It's much harder to find a SA group.Most people can find a Celebrate Recovery group in their area. This doesn't focus on sexual addictions, but you'll find that many of the men attending CR groups happen to be there because of sexual and pornography addictions.
Pornography Addiction FAQ
- Am I addicted to pornography or to masturbation?
- I never look at pornography-how do I stop masturbation?
- How do I know if I'm addicted to pornography?
- If I'm addicted to pornography, will I ever be able to stop looking at it?
- Can I still go to communion if I'm addicted to pornography or masturbation?
- Do I have to tell my wife about it if I'm addicted to pornography?
- What if my wife tells other people about my pornography addiction?
- Where do I get help with pornography addiction?
The Steps To Breaking The Pornography Addiction
We can sit and talk all day about how bad pornography is, about how many men it's ensnared, about the way it's ruined the lives of so many young women, about the families it has destroyed, etc., etc.,. But really--how does that help. The real problem, right now, is that so many men WANT to quit looking at it and can't.
Of course, not all men want to quit--not right now anyway. What was it that St. Augustine said? "Lord, give me chastity... but not yet." Some men are kind of in denial. They want to pretend that they're just going through a phase. That they'll move on to something else eventually. Others convince themselves that the problem is with other people... for example, their wives. And still others enjoy their sins and are unlikely to ever turn from them.
Why Do So Many Men Have Problems With Pornography Addiction?
Most women have a hard time understanding why a man would look at pornography at all... let alone become so addicted to it that it creates such huge problems with job performance, family life, and even finances. And when women are told why this happens, they often don't believe it or they think that it only applies to a few select men.
Let's start with the fact that women are beautiful. God made them this way, and meant for us to have a certain amount of awe for this beauty. But the beauty (for men anyway) is much different than the beauty of a blue sky or a nice car. The beauty is different because the mere sight of it excites a man sexually.
The Victims Of Pornography
Most men know why looking at pornography is wrong. But many men, some of them deeply ensnared in the clutches of an addiction, tell themselves little lies to help justify it to themselves. Things like, "What's the big deal--as long as I'm not looking at child pornography, then everyone is a consenting adult. This woman wants people to look at her body. I want to look."For those still telling themselves these lies, let's take a look at just how pornography is hurting people--a LOT of people. Pornography victimizes a lot of people... in many different ways.